Debby Says

Can Women Remove Themselves Emotionally?

September 15th, 2006

Is it possible for a woman to be in a relationship and not be emotionally involved? I have dated girls who when I say I’m not looking for anything serious (a cowardly way of saying I would not like them to be my girlfriend), have said they would still like to maintain the physical aspect of the relationship.

Can I believe they are not becoming attached and thus pained by my lack of committment?

Hey DTR
They can be very open minded, but this may mean that They are the ones who don´t want to get in a serious relationship! I know many Girls who do this thing… just to keep on having phisical affection in long periods of lack of relationships… BUT, some of them Might keep on dating you because they might think it´d be a way to make you like them more and be more interested in them (i have met a couple of cases, but i still think it is a very bad idea.. not proper of an intelligent girl)… The thing here is, in the first case, they are open mind (you can find plenty of them everywhere, so don´t be surprised) the second is a case of very low self-esteem. Be aware!


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Unfaithful Women

September 15th, 2006

Hey guys! I’ve been asked by many boys why women are unfaithful… see I’m not the type to cheat on a guy, that is why I think I am not the right person to write about unfaithful women; but I have several friends who do that over and over again… and they enjoy it… and never feel guilty… Wanna know why?

Unfaithful women… a new generation?
written by a naturally unfaithful woman:
Why are we women unfaithful? Maybe we are highly motivated by the desire to win over the stronger sex… men… we want to show success and strength in the art of conquering more than the man we already have… and I say this because many of us, unfaithful women, have a BF, fiance or even a husband… But these willing of adventure make us look for affairs, and this used to be a taboo for us in past.
Now we have the chance in our hands to play and give to others our bodies and minds, our passion is the tool that goes with us every time every moment and makes us admired and even necessary.It all begins like a emotional game… a favorite friend that turns to be our best friend later… if anything goes wrong with our BF or husband… we will take revenge in his arms.

Lack of love or attention may justify our attitude if we are caught. But inside of us there will always be a burning flame of unsatisfaction… we will always yearn for the romantic passionate love, full of adventure and danger.. when we find a calm and stable love, we get bored and try to look for new experiences in another man, the one who we are going to replace over and over again to feel satisfied… I am positive in my thinking that unfaithful women belong to a new generation…

– the unfaithful woman

All I can say about this is…
Gentleman, take care of the details… Details keep relationships alive!!


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I Didn’t Mean To

September 15th, 2006

When I went home for my 2 week vacation form the combat zone in Iraq, I ended up sleeping with my ex.
She insisted on spending time with me when I was home, and I hung out with her for a few days and one night it happend and she seemed to be the one that wanted it so bad, and I didnt think It would cause her to believe I wanted a new relatoinship with her. Now she thinks I used her for sex when I was home and what ever friendship we had is destroyed.
I surely did not mean for that to happen.

Hey Mike I am sorry to hear that. First thing; the biggest mistake here was yours, you should have not let that happen if you didn´t mean to use her. I tell you this, girls are very emotinal, we have a much stronger illusion about boys, specially after sex!! it means to us kind of a.. promise. I know it was not your intention, but your friendship might not get lost if you talk to her sincerely… and please, if you don´t want to give her fake signals of a new relationship, try not to hang out with her that much, i know its a bit annoying… hopefully your combat time will not last very long and you are going to make a new life and meet new ppl so be positive. Good luck!!


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I Want My EX Back!

September 14th, 2006

Brian write:

Dear Deb,
I want to come back with my girlfriend, but
she doesn’t want to.
She says it’s not the same.
What should I do?

Dear Brian:
Maybe all she needs is time! So try not to insist that much. Maybe she makes up her mind, and you´ll come back! … if it doesn`t work, don`t be obssesive… don`t be frustrated, there are plenty of girls all over the world! And try to spend your time doing all you didn`t when u had a gf- parties, friends, dating, etc!.. Hugs
Deb


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How To Get the Date

September 14th, 2006

SHY GUY… HOW TO GET THE DATE…??

Ok, ok, having the date itself is a good thing… But the hardest thing for sure is how to get it!!

Here comes the most amazing girl and you’re kind of tired of being just another friend!

All the guys say she’s hot… well… she is!

She hangs around with her girl-friends up and down and you can never get a moment alone with her!

It might be that you’re too ugly for her… Or maybe this is what you think!

So gentlemen, Here I got a deal for you: Try to ask her out… getting over those challenges.. and not remain so alone!!

First fact: Girls keep on telling their whole lives to her friends, so… Even if you don’t like her mean best friend or her gossipy second best friend.. They have to have a good impression of you. This is important cause they will always tell her their point of view… especially about you. Be friends and find something in common – C`mon, there must be something!

Second fact: Being a good flirter doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to be chasing her and annoying her day and night. It just means that you care about her, about what she says and about her feelings. Also, make her laugh, because she can find all that in a good friend, but the deal is to make her like you, right? Be yourself!

Third Fact: You can not jump straight into a dating before being friends- not if you’re serious! – So get to know her, show little details.., like bringing her some small things she comments you she likes (a CD, her favourite chocolate or replace her broken favourite ruler). You’ll become someone who exists in her life.. Make yourself become more special!

Fouth Fact: Ok, time to go straight into the point! Flirt BAD, Make her Like you, Get CLOSER, kiss her! who knows! It could take as many dates as needed, but it`s up to you. BE sure you don’t call her the same day you are planning to take her out. (she might have plans!!) Here is the way you should go.. Hey.. [Girl]! How are you?… yes, it’s freaking cold (hot) in here! What plans for tonight? Wanna watch a movie?… If for any reason the answer is NO, don’t surrender!.. It’s ok [Girl] When do you have a free time? You sick? Want me to go rent a movie and watch it in your house?

Difficult? Yeah… Here we go.. take this into consideration… Good suitors are always patient. So if you want something serious and this girl’s is definitely worth it, take it easy… and work on it!


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Hello world!

September 14th, 2006

I just got the new blog software installed!

YIPPIE


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