Teenage Moms… a child to raise.. or to play with?
Teenage Moms
I am positive about this: No matter how controversial is abortion, morning after pill, adoption or even suicide…no institution, religion or society can tell a girl what to with the sudden baby inside of her… No matter how bad they think it is to commit any of those, they will never be right because it had never happened to themselves and probably it won’t.
Yeah, I study at college with some moms of my age… and honestly, I admire them. Some of them are already married, some were left after the father of their baby got known she was pregnant, some of them moved to the city to study… but all have this in common, they make the huge effort to raise their babies and study at the same time (that’s even harder than to study and work, being a mother has none limit of time).
They are brave. They didn’t choose to kill their babies. They don’t just give up, they want to become a professional. When it’s end of semester, we all gather together to get drunk and go crazy. They, instead, hurry back home to change nappies.
I also met girls at school who take morning after pills, who have had an abortion or that just keep on telling that if they get pregnant, they would abort it just because it’s just a bunch of cells that could spoil the rest of their lives.
BOTH are right! the point here is: those girls who say they wouldn’t have it, end up feeling love towards this tiny cell in their tummies and become moms, and the ones which tell a whole sermon about life and moral end up aborting it. You never know until it happens to you.
Some of my friends blame their mothers for the life they have and the way they were raised… they say, “why the hell did she fuck so young if she wasn’t gonna be able to raise a kid right!!” Yea they are right… i can understand how they feel and how the inexperience of a teenage mother affect their worlds completely… a mother who had boyfriend after boyfriend and teenager dreams, a mother who wanted to go crazy but didn’t go to party cause she had to take care of this baby, i bet this was so annoying that they transmitted all this feeling to them… their stress to get money for the baby and not spending enough time with him. The frustration they felt when they didn’t do normal teen stuff and had to remain at home with a baby that seemed to bother them… yeah my friends remember how bad it felt. The disappointing shame they feel their mother is still a grown teenager just because she didn’t have a full adolescence and the crazy way she dresses up, behaves and change of boyfriends, the shame they feel when their friends notice it and the pain they feel their moms are not like their “normal” friends’ moms. The bad relationship they have no matter how hard they try to improve it, she claims she made a sacrifice to bring them to life and they claim back they she shouldn’t have had a baby she wasn’t ready to raise yet.
I can’t really tell who is completely right, I just beg God it doesn’t happen to me. The decision this teenage mother make does not only have effects in their lives, but also in their children’s! Should we convince pregnant teenagers to abort to make happier future families and societies, or should we encourage them to have it for them to feel good, and forget about the environment this baby is going to be raised in? WHAT should be done? Who the hell is right?
What do YOU think could be a solution for this? You can help me to make up my mind!!!
Hugs
Deb
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I have to agree! It’s a tough choice to make, but when I got pregnant earlier this year I decided the best thing was to stop the pregnancy. I am still in school, and even relationships that seem great could end… and it seems like at this age we are changing so fast that it’s easier to grow apart from someone… and then I’d be left to to raise it by myself, with not much money. I knew I could not provide a great life for any new baby, and I’m very happy with my decision to wait for a better time. I have a friend who did try to do it on her own, but now she finds it much hard to get another SERIOUS boyfriend, since she already has a kid!
October 1st, 2006 | #
This topic will go on for infinity, or until the world ends And, by the looks of it the planet is falling apart at the seams each year that eradicates its foundations; just getting more violent and intensive with its natural disasters. Hmmm…I wonder why.
Debby, the main question is, what will God himself want for you? Unless we are agnostics–But more are not then are. So its a fair question to ask yourself when you don’t have anyone to turn to for help, I suppose.
I am a single father and let me tell you now, having a child from your own flesh and blood is the most Beautiful “gift “beyond comprehension, nomatter what the environment and surroudings are! Wait till you have your first baby. Omg. It will make you see Angels sliding down Rainbows– let me emphasis it nice and Prolific.
I think “Life” must continue nomatter what, because God himself said, “Be fruitful and multiply”. He didn’t say say, ” Be indignant and subtract”.
I am not an Agnostic, so I favor Life instead of Death, becuase technically speaking :Abortion: is not Life, nor will it ever be. Therfore, the beginning of wisdom is to fear God himself, by respecting his voice.
What a teenaged pregnancy will become is up to that individual’s own soul. I pray that life is more meaningful than a night out in the dark red nightclubs. That lifesytle gets so old pretty fast, but a child’s life continues to give you happiness forever. I don’t party like I use to, but my daughter is so Beautiful and glorious. I’m glad she came into the world! hahaha
So the main reasoning for each Teen that gets pregnant too soon and young is: What’s so hard about letting life be as it is? and just have the baby inside you come out to see how beautiful Mommy really is, inside and outside. Isn’t that better than fearing life and trying to escape its natural course?
Now I’m not saying “Rape” is a natural course either. Because that is the main target when discussing Abortion issues. It never fails to protrude from the masses in “Live “debates– publicly, or in private situations.
But you’re absolutely right! You don’t have to give a sermon to see that life is better than death! I’m glad my Mother didn’t “Abort” any of her 12 children! lol! Let me tell you now…Want a lesson on the beauty of Motherhood?? Talk to my Mother Josephine, and she’ll make you fall on your gorgeous knees and beg God himself to give you the same inspiring wisdom she has.
“Chronic-Drama” comes in all aspects in life, Debs. Abortion, is just a terrible wreckless debate to get into. There will never be a compromise. Only God himself has the wisdom to slove it. I am no messiah, that I know.
Life is what you make it, Debs…. Life is what you make it. So we can only share the “Beauty of Life, while others choose to support the “Benefits of Abortion. That is the TRUE difference between the two in plain simplistic terms. Call them analogies it you will, but they are right there in the open now.
Its the “Inability” to make the “Right Decisions” that keeps a teenager trapped in their own foolishness. And its the “Ability” to make the “Right Decisions” that keep a teenager in a somewhat perfect harmony with their own adolescence. Problems come in all forms And, how they cope with each one will be their own making, knowingly or unknowningly.
But there are multitudes of twist and turns in life. Abortion? Its just another twist of death– I mean, let the truth be told.
Sure it gives the Feedom back to the Could-be-MOTHER but that last second decision haunts
them for the rest of their natural lives. So is it really Freedom? Hell No…
I’ve seen it in the eyes of the beholder, and it is such a sad thing to look at when the memories come out to taunt them.
You are very intelligent Debs. I can tell sweetie. Goodnight and Buon Giorno to you always….
Hugs to you Debs, — love Dicacio
October 6th, 2006 | #