Debby Says

Teenage Moms

I am positive about this: No matter how controversial is abortion, morning after pill, adoption or even suicide…no institution, religion or society can tell a girl what to with the sudden baby inside of her… No matter how bad they think it is to commit any of those, they will never be right because it had never happened to themselves and probably it won’t.

Yeah, I study at college with some moms of my age… and honestly, I admire them. Some of them are already married, some were left after the father of their baby got known she was pregnant, some of them moved to the city to study… but all have this in common, they make the huge effort to raise their babies and study at the same time (that’s even harder than to study and work, being a mother has none limit of time).

They are brave. They didn’t choose to kill their babies. They don’t just give up, they want to become a professional. When it’s end of semester, we all gather together to get drunk and go crazy. They, instead, hurry back home to change nappies.

I also met girls at school who take morning after pills, who have had an abortion or that just keep on telling that if they get pregnant, they would abort it just because it’s just a bunch of cells that could spoil the rest of their lives.

BOTH are right! the point here is: those girls who say they wouldn’t have it, end up feeling love towards this tiny cell in their tummies and become moms, and the ones which tell a whole sermon about life and moral end up aborting it. You never know until it happens to you.

Some of my friends blame their mothers for the life they have and the way they were raised… they say, “why the hell did she fuck so young if she wasn’t gonna be able to raise a kid right!!” Yea they are right… i can understand how they feel and how the inexperience of a teenage mother affect their worlds completely… a mother who had boyfriend after boyfriend and teenager dreams, a mother who wanted to go crazy but didn’t go to party cause she had to take care of this baby, i bet this was so annoying that they transmitted all this feeling to them… their stress to get money for the baby and not spending enough time with him. The frustration they felt when they didn’t do normal teen stuff and had to remain at home with a baby that seemed to bother them… yeah my friends remember how bad it felt. The disappointing shame they feel their mother is still a grown teenager just because she didn’t have a full adolescence and the crazy way she dresses up, behaves and change of boyfriends, the shame they feel when their friends notice it and the pain they feel their moms are not like their “normal” friends’ moms. The bad relationship they have no matter how hard they try to improve it, she claims she made a sacrifice to bring them to life and they claim back they she shouldn’t have had a baby she wasn’t ready to raise yet.

I can’t really tell who is completely right, I just beg God it doesn’t happen to me. The decision this teenage mother make does not only have effects in their lives, but also in their children’s! Should we convince pregnant teenagers to abort to make happier future families and societies, or should we encourage them to have it for them to feel good, and forget about the environment this baby is going to be raised in? WHAT should be done? Who the hell is right?

What do YOU think could be a solution for this? You can help me to make up my mind!!!

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Deb