Debby Says

Ralph wrote:
I’ve been thinking about breaking up with my girlfriend, i like her and all it’s
just we’re way too busy for each other and i feel that we don’t have a lot in
common. i’m not sure what to do because i don’t want to hurt her. i guess i
don’t know what i want. any advice?

If you are not sure things can change for good between the two of you, don`t go on with the relationship, dear. The longer you stay wondering, the more it will hurt you when it`s all over, cause if things keep like that, it will be over sooner or later. Unless you talk to her very sincerely about your situation.. no time together and no fun stuff makes a relationship wither with time. All the best for you!!

Javon wrote:
did you do the site yourself? its cool and different. well get at me whenever

Yeah i do most of it myself.  The CyberClub team set me up with easy software, but this is a space for me only to write articles and reply questions, and whatever else I want… glad you like it! come back soon

Deb

I have had a few requests for more pictures,
so here is a new one from my webcam today.

It’s 10:30 am. She wakes up still dizzy and goes to the fridge to eat whatever she finds in it. Yeah 2 liters of water at once too…Last night she drunk way too much, went crazy with her girl-friends, met this group of hot guys, flirted, kissed… and she barely remembers this guy getting her naked…. that`s it.

Part of her breakfast is this kind of a routine every sunday morning.. this little tiny pill that lately has erase- and- rewind effect after these wild nights.

The morning after pill has lately become more and more popular among thousands of American- and now Latina American girls too.. It`s so easy to get, no more than being 18 is required. No prescriptions. And if you are below 18, you can ask a friend or cousin to buy it for you. You don’t even need to have a boyfriend to take it. It´s getting way too common and natural to take it as a salvation among new generation of teens, at the point that they don`t even think about long-term effects. They don`t take into consideration it`s an *Emergency* pill, they keep on taking it over and over again.

Do you think the intake of the Morning after pill can be controlled? If so, HOW?

All kinds of suggestions are welcome!

Hugs
Debby

This picture was taken around January 2006 for my modeling book (portfolio)… The photographer asked me to smile, but i did not, cuz I meant to be myself.

Ok, these few lines are dedicated to all you silly guys who don’t know what to do, what to say, how to behave, etc, in the first date with the girl you like! Yes, the prettiest of them all! The one that has all you want!! Carlo, you inspired me…

First of all : BE A GENTLEMAN!! We care about little details like.. Open the door of the car, move the chair for us to sit, etc. It is VERY important!!

Second: When you take her there, mall, park, whatever, NEVER, absolutely NEVER guys, ask: What do you want to do? Always offer some options: Wanna watch a movie, have an ice-cream? Or maybe the ice-cream after the movie? Oh yeah- smile a lot.

Third: Never put a face of Pain when you see the bill. Keep on smiling…

Fouth: This might be the most important part of the date: We LOVE fancy jewelery or that stuff to hang on our ears, neck and wrists… (doesn’t need to be real of course). Take her there. Ask her to try on something you like. Ask her if she likes it… (If not, ask her to choose one) and… there you go: “This is for you”. I warranty you guys, this never fails. Even if the date was boring so far, this will be the most fun part. And also, this is a great way the girl remembers you everyday by looking at it!

This will work, believe in me!! When you take her home pay a special attention on the way she says Thanks… You have to get the sweetest Thanks! And now, if you did not succed at all…

Fifth: It`s ok, you can give up on her, or you can try harder!! If the chance is high she doesn’t like you in that way and wants to be friends only, then keep on being friends, maybe she will appreciate that more than your other intentions.. And also, she doesn`t get hurt by thinking you were nice only to flirt!!!

Cat writes:

Hello Debby! I like the new site. It’s my first time to write, but I’m wanting to know what is the best thing to do about my boyfriend who is starting to pressure me for sex. I REALLY like him a lot, and don’t want to lose him, but I’ve never had sex before, and it’s kind of scary to think about getting pregnant or diseases or anything. Maybe you have some good advice?

Cat

Hey Cat,
thanks for your message! Well.. if he is pressing you that much, it´d be a terrible experience to do it just to please him! you have to be 100% sure. If he loves you and respects you, you both may go together somewhere where you can get information about birth control and diseases: If he doesnt want to, and u still dont feel ready, forget it, there are plenty of guys left in the world… and it´s a very good thing you care about your sexual life… congratz and Good luck!!

Deb

Jeff writes:

hello debby! i like you’re site. maybe you can help me out too. my girlfriend will be turning 21 in two weeks and i want to surprise her with a little gift (so i dont want to ASK her!) we have only known each other for about 2 weeks so i dont have a lot to go on. i am asking some of my friends, and thought i would ask you too.

do you have any ideas for a little something i could surpise her with? i am just a poor student, so keep that in mind.

thanks, jeff

Hello Jeff!
I have to let you know this: money is not that important if you want to make a cute present! Girls love details… Do you have any abilities? Why not making a card or love letter yourself? Take her somewhere you can see the stars… you have to be creative!!
Good luck!!

Mary writes:

Dear Deb,

I went on a holiday and met this guy, and had an amazing time together, but he never called me back.

What should I do?

Dear Mary..
Maybe he used you! The thing here is: you had a wonderful time already, and i`m sure you`ll meet plenty of more guys.. you don`t need this one anymore! He´s an idiot and he doesn´t know the great chance he´s missing- anyway that`s not your problem anymore! Take care gurl.

Is it possible for a woman to be in a relationship and not be emotionally involved? I have dated girls who when I say I’m not looking for anything serious (a cowardly way of saying I would not like them to be my girlfriend), have said they would still like to maintain the physical aspect of the relationship.

Can I believe they are not becoming attached and thus pained by my lack of committment?

Hey DTR
They can be very open minded, but this may mean that They are the ones who don´t want to get in a serious relationship! I know many Girls who do this thing… just to keep on having phisical affection in long periods of lack of relationships… BUT, some of them Might keep on dating you because they might think it´d be a way to make you like them more and be more interested in them (i have met a couple of cases, but i still think it is a very bad idea.. not proper of an intelligent girl)… The thing here is, in the first case, they are open mind (you can find plenty of them everywhere, so don´t be surprised) the second is a case of very low self-esteem. Be aware!